How to be a person in January

I don’t know about you but I am trying very hard not to give in to the pressure of the New Year. Realistically I know I need to go slowly and be kind to myself (I have written about this before) yet I still feel some kind of psychological tug to become the very best version of me. Where does this come from? I know I am succeeding by being a good parent and by caring about those around me. Like you I am a loving, thinking entity who is part of a complex network of requirement and reciprocation. 

Good health is not a question of morality. Often we don’t even choose how healthy we are. As we grow older all kinds of things start malfunctioning- some within our control and others not so much. We sometimes have power around our mental well-being but often not- the body and mind are ever changing and in flux. The societal standards put forward by the media and expanded upon by the toxic narrative behind self-improvement are basically impossible... we are in decline every single day! And it’s OK you know- it’s how nature works.

January has a way of centring you as the main protagonist, the lone warrior, but it’s a lie. We will all look after you and yes you will evolve a little every day- naturally, but it’s not all on you. The people you connect with will build your knowledge and understanding; When Spring comes you will get outside and walk more and get more sunlight. If you cast your bread on the water it returns a thousandfold. Opportunity will come with very little effort if you’re staying in touch with yourself. Not much! Don’t try too hard.

Take hibernation seriously and you’ll feel much less serious, I promise.